Sunday, 20 October 2013

I know a lot more about abortion than any man!

I find it repulsive when Ken Orr is maintaining his crusade against abortion despite never having had one and to the best of my knowledge not fostering a dozen or so unwanted and neglected children. Perhaps if he actually spoke kindly with knowledge about the poverty children experience when they are not wanted I would have some respect for him. But these unwanted children grow up in dysfunctional families in over crowded homes.

Ask any social worker from CYfs what they think of abortion and I am pretty sure none of them see abortion as child abuse.

Professor David Fergusson concedes that 98% of abortions are authorised on the grounds of mental health, but that they do not improve the mental health of the women. Really ? Do you think spending the next 20 years raising an unloved and unwanted child is going to be the solution? Perhaps it is the reason for the confusion is that a women should not have to have a"mental health problem" in order to receive an abortion. Perhaps this male centred view is the real problem.

I speak on abortion with some authority as I have had the experience. I was 17 or 18 and despite having two trips to the doctor it was at 13 weeks after a false diagnosis of cysts on my ovaries. I had a week to make up my mind. I was single and not planning on becoming a single mom. I know for a fact that I would not have lead the life I had and married or travelled if I had not been able to access a termination. It was 1984 and I clearly remember being fully under an anaesthetic and after wards watching the 1984 olympic games in LA.

In 1986 I meet my husband and married and then travelled to the USA. There was no way I would have had this experience as a young single mum. In fact I am willing to bet that what causes the most problems for mental health is single parenting. Nothing grinds a person down as much as working 24/7 for no reward. Children or babies seldom say, thanks Mum I loved the bottle you woke up at 3 am to give me.

It's sexist of me to say this but seriously men need to stick to the stuff the know and be supportive of women's choices. It is still very much a mans world. If you disagree just imagine if it was our female mayor having the affair. The name trollop, slapper, loose women , whore, tramp etc . A man is just being a man.
we not in my world.

As the mother of three beautiful daughters and one grandson. I also hope all their children are wanted ones. But should accidents happen , and they do. I would like to think that choice to continue the pregnancy or not was hers alone. That is what a loving and caring society looks like, not one that casts doubt on a woman for her sexuality or choices.And don't get me started on RAPE!

Tuesday, 15 October 2013

Lying down Len Brown

Hmmm I am pretty annoyed that a man with no moral compass and no boundaries is Mayor of my town. Contrast this slimy lying low life with Lianne Dalziel the new Christchurch mayor. She is squeaky clean and has maintained a dignified stance her whole time in politics. I applaud her. Like Vicki Buck before her. No dramas or stuff ups.

Why do we accept the behaviour of cheaters and liars. Christ if the man is capable of lying to those he loves most, supposedly , his wife and children , what makes you think we will get the truth from Len? Why should a man with an impossibly large ego and no ethics make decisions that affect us. I don't trust him. He is weak and cowardly. He knew this would cost him so he played us all for fools.

Why is there such a disgustingly backward sexist culture in politics today? Helen Clarke did nothing worse than sign a painting in haste and she was treated horribly with gay rumours and being childless, stories portrayed her  as cold . That is not who she is. She is smart woman who intimidated lesser minds. She may have had a cold stare or the death glare but inside she was human and was hurt by comments just as Julia Gillard was.
 She also was a great strong woman who did nothing really wrong. Apart from her gender which was perceived as a weakness.
By whom? Weak cowardly and back stabbing men.

I think that women use a different measuring system to men. People before profits would be more women's than men's mantra.

 How long is a piece of string?
30 cm the women says, 12 inches the man says.
The woman must be wrong the man says.

The same goes for stupid old white men with opinions about periods and abortions. I really don't think you can measure these things scientifically.
Men are the cause of all abortions . Do you think that men will accept that headline?
Why then, should a man write that abortions cause women mental illness.

Perhaps the tools used to measure scientifically are not the same. The peniscope in my opinion gives a far less accurate reading than a vaginascope.
Just like, there are inches and centimetres, so are there different ways to measure things .

I think using the vaginascope the result would be that Len is wrong. However I am quite convinced using a different measuring scale , say the peniscope , the outcome would be different.
Neither of these devices are in common use yet, so it mere speculation but I am stating for the record. It may be time to raise the standard of candidate or introduce I want to change my vote clause!!!